To test or not to test, that is the question

You are finally at the end of your cycle and your period is nearing.  Should you take a pregnancy test before your missed period?  The commercials on tv say that some tests can detect a pregnancy several days before your missed period.  While that is true, it is more accurate to wait until you have gone past your longest luteal phase (probably about 14 days).

I say to wait with my finger crossed behind my back.  Guess what?  The first month we tried to conceive I went out to the store and bought one of those early pregnancy tests.  I nervously took the test and waited the allotted amount of time.  It was negative.  That didn’t deter me though.  I tested several more times in the following days until my period arrived – right on time.  I had given in.  I would like to blame the ladies in an online trying to conceive forum for making me test, but really, it was my behavior.  I own up to the fact that I bought the tests and I took the tests.  Oh, and I didn’t tell my husband.  I was secretly hoping to surprise him with a positive result.

So, you may be wondering if I learned my lesson that first month.  Nope!  In some things I am a very slow learner.  After a second month of testing early, I did start to learn my lesson and began waiting a bit longer to test.  Pregnancy tests are expensive!  Over the 5 years it took us to conceive, my husband joked that we should have bought stock in pregnancy tests, First Response in particular.

I can’t tell you whether or not to test or even when to test.  The choice is ultimately yours.  If you can handle seeing a negative and you really want to test then go for it (you may want to get the Dollar Tree cheap pregnancy tests though).  If you think seeing a negative early on will be too hard or will take away your hope then please wait.  Finally, if you really want your period to show up so that you can move on to the next cycle – Test!  This is a surefire way to make your period show up the same day or the next in my experience 🙂

Are you curious how and when we ended up finding out we were pregnant with our kiddo?  Well, even after 5 years, I tested several days early in December 2010 because I wanted to give my husband a terrific Christmas present.  I was sure that I was pregnant; I just had this feeling.  I still can’t explain it.  I took a traditional test (one line or two) and thought I saw a second line.  I got excited and took a digital test which promptly offered me some different news – “Not Pregnant”.  I was shocked and sad, but still thought I was pregnant so I waited another day or two.  I tried again with the traditional test and there wasn’t a second line.  I still wasn’t overly sad because I really felt like I was pregnant.  On New Year’s Eve I tested in the morning and it was negative again.  That night as Nate and I cuddled on the couch and watched the ball drop I confessed that I had been testing and it was negative, but I really thought I was pregnant.  He said, “tomorrow is another day, test again”.  I did, and it was positive.  It just goes to show that testing early doesn’t always give you accurate results.  If you choose to test early, don’t give up hope if you see a negative – sometimes it just takes awhile to show up.